很有深度的人生哲理句子，经典入心，回味无穷！

一、

当我们过度专注于从某人那里得到承诺或安全感时，我们可能会忽略一个事实：我们也需要时间去了解这个人，并决定这个人是否真的和我们想要的一致。

When we're hyper cocused on getting commitment or security from someone,we may lose sight of the fact that we also need time to get to know this person and decide whether or not this person is truly aligned with what we want.

二、

如果我们的自然倾向是回避，我们应该反其道而行之吗？即使我们的能量告诉我们要离开我们正在努力维持的关系？

If our natural tendency is to avoid,should we do the opposite of that?even if our energy is telling us to pull away in the relationship we are trying to wok on?

三、

有时候，我们说再见不是因为对方不愿意给我们所需要的，而是因为他们给不了。那些再见可能是最艰难的结局。

Sometimes we say goodbye not because the other person doesn't want to give us what we need,but becasue they can't.those goodbyes can be some of the hardest endings to make.

四、

当你理解了故事产生的背景时，每个人的故事都是有意义的。

Everyone's story makes perfect sense when you understand the context in which it was created.

五、

有些人非常重视真理，他们愿意为了接受真理而感到极大的不适。有些人非常重视自由，他们会从打断自由的关系中走出来。

Some people value truth so much that they're willing to feel immense discomfort in order to receive it.some people value freedom so much that they'll walk away from relatioships that interrupt it.

六、

我认为我们所有的人都必须在接近我们的伴侣和接近我们自己之间找到微妙的平衡。我们必须找到一种方法，知道什么时候我们所爱的人能提供安慰，什么时候我们必须学会从内心培养安慰。

I think all of us who enter relationships have to find the delicate balance between reaching for our partner and reaching for ourselves.we have to find a way to know when it's comfort our loved one can provide,or a comfort we must learn to internally cultivate.

七、

面对那些孤独地面对和挑战我们的人，我们会变得害怕和抗拒他们。与那些只会用温柔和无尽的理解来安慰我们的人在一起，我们可能得不到那种勇气和诚实，我们需要去面对和整合更完整、更真实的自我。

With people who lonly confront and challenge us,we can grow to become afraid and resistant towards them.with people who only comfort us with gentleness and endless understanding,we might not be offered the kind of courage and honesty we need to face and integrate our fuller and more authentic selves.

八、

当你用直接、清楚、诚实的语言表达真正的问题时，你的注意力集中在自己的内心，而不是引发愤怒的人身上，愤怒就有了很好的界限。

Anger has good boundaries when it is expressed with direct,clear,honest words about the true issue,with your focus on your own insides,rather than on the person who triggered the anger.

九、

拥有一个安全的关系容器有时会让人回想起痛苦的记忆或感觉，让他们想要逃离自己。

Having a safe relational container can sometimes allow people to access painful memories or feelings that can make them want to run away from themselves. #情感#

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