加葱反思周末对谈 #EachforEqual 【中英双语 In Chinese and English】
#EachforEqual Jiacong reflects over last Sunday's conversation
#每个人的平等
#EachforEqual
加葱的等号手势
Jiacong's hands-out equal pose
加葱分享的故事中大部分的中文以及配图由他本人提供，作为这项活动的发起者陶理（本名：缪鑫，英文：Hermione，陶理是笔名）在征得同意的基础上，根据谷歌的机翻做了英文翻译的修改，包括标点符号和段落布局，做了符合手机阅读的排版，最后也附上了个人评论。
The story is provided by Jiacong and translated by Google and Hermione. The paragraphs are edited to be better for reading at your phone. It ends with Hermione's comment.
国际女性日 2020
International Women's Day 2020
3月8日，我与缪鑫每周末的关于地理和教育的交流，刚好碰到这一个特殊的日子。
缪鑫一上来就问我：你知道今天是什么日子吗？
这个问题一下子把我问住了：我知道，但是我没有行动。
缪鑫进一步问我：为什么没有行动？
于是我们的谈话从我的反思开始。
This year's March 8th met the Sunday when Hermione and I usually have our weekly conversation on geography and education.
The first question I got from her was: Do you know what day it is?
This is a question I did not know how to respond at first and then I admitted: I knew, but I had no action.
Hermione further asked me: why there was no action?
So our conversation began with my reflection.
首先是我自己的思考。
我的内心有两种情绪：一种是我们平时也可以做一些事情，并不需要在这特别的时刻做；二是懒得动，没有积极参与其中的想法。
这一次的谈话，让我进一步认识到，与缪鑫的交往中，她往往扮演着促进者的角色。在我有想法没行动甚至没有想法的时候，给我付诸行动的激励或者观点的启发。
于是我内心萌生了想法：
应该行动，此时不做，更待何时？
Firstly, my own thoughts.
There are two kinds of emotions in my heart. One is that we can usually do something and we don't need to do it at this special moment. The other is that (I am) being too lazy to make a move and have no idea to actively participate.
This conversation pushed me to go one step further, realising that in our communication, Hermione often plays the role of facilitator. When I have an idea but delaying my action or have no idea yet, she is always willing to give me an incentive to act or some new idea.
So this time an idea starts to sprout in my heart:
I should act, if not now, then when?
其次，我们谈到了话语空间的问题。
面对男女不平等等一系列话题，社会上、网络上常常会有很多声音，而且有时充斥着不经思考的、完全情绪宣泄的，甚至带有歧视性的观点。
如果此时我们不发出自己的声音，那话语空间就会被这些错误的观点所占据。
因此，如果坚持自己的观点，那就需要勇敢地表达自己的观点，让正确的观点被越来越多的人看到。
Secondly, we talked about the issue of discourse space.
Faced with a series of topics such as inequality between men and women, there are often many voices in the society and posed online, and sometimes they are full of thoughtless, completely emotional, and even discriminatory views.
If we do not make our own voices at this time, then the discourse space will be occupied by these wrong views.
Therefore, if we insist on our own views, we need to express our views bravely, and let the correct views be more and more people see.
第三，作为男性教育者的我，向作为女性的缪鑫，提出问题：
在学校领域，我可以用什么方式表达对女性职工和学生的尊重和关心？
缪鑫给我四点回应：
（1）女性绝不是娇弱，并不需要时时刻刻的特殊照顾，但是在面对女同事、女学生的时候，询问一声是否需要帮忙，是尊重女性的表现。
（2）女性与男性有不可回避的生理差异，你学校育龄女性同事比较多，或许应该关注生产前后的同事，因为生产会给她们带来身体和心理的巨大压力，可以给她们力所能及的帮助。
（3）青春期的学生，感情比较丰富，可能会被课堂以外的问题所困惑，教师可能需要留意到，避免简单粗暴地处理学生产生的问题。
（4）避免简单地给男女学生贴标签，比如：男生适合学自然科学，女生适合学人文社会科学，女生的理性思维很差，女生数学比男生差等等。每个学生都应该活出自己，每个人都可以认识更广阔的世界，探索更多的可能性。
Thirdly, as a male educator, I asked Hermione who is also a woman:
In the schools, in what ways can I show respect and concern for female employees and students?
Here is her four responses to me:
(1) Women are by no means weak and do not need special care at all times, but in the face of female colleagues and female students, asking if they need help is a sign of respect for women.
(2) There are unavoidable physiological differences between women and men. There are more female colleagues of childbearing age in your school. Perhaps you should pay attention to your colleagues before and after childbirth, because childbirth will bring them tremendous physical and psychological pressure and help them within their capacity.
(3) Adolescent students have rich emotions and may be confused by problems outside the classroom. Teachers may need to take these into consideration so that they can avoid dealing with students' problems in a simiplistic and rude way.
(4) Avoid simply labeling male and female students, such as: boys are suitable for natural sciences, girls are suitable for humanities and social sciences, girls have poor rational thinking, girls have worse mathematics than boys, and so on. Every student should live by himself and herself, and everyone can reach out the wider world and explore more possibilities.
最后，我付诸行动了。
当天晚上，做了旨在引起学生们对性别差异和平等问题的关注的三件事情。
第一是在班级微信群里分享电影《82年生的金智英》。
第二是发起匿名调查，请学生们分享自己或亲友因为性别而被差别对待的经历，以及对性别平等的看法。最后收集到12份问卷，其中11个女同学，1个男同学，整理后在班群里向学生们分享。
第三，我分享了缪鑫公众号的文章，里面有很多女性的故事。
In the end, I took action.
That night, three things were done to draw students' attention to gender differences and equality issues.
The first is to share the movie "Kim Ji-young: Born 1982" in the class WeChat group.
source: https://movie.douban.com/subject/30327842/
(this screenshot is done by Hermione on 14th March 2020)
source: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11052808/
(this screenshot is done by Hermione on 14th March 2020)
The second is to launch an anonymous survey, asking students to share their experiences of being treated differently because of their gender, as well as their relatives and friends, and their views on gender equality. Finally, 12 questionnaires were collected, of which 11 female students and 1 male student were collected and shared with students in the class group.
Third, I shared the article of Hermione's wechat public account, which contains many stories of women.
source: Jiacong's screenshot of his message to his class.
缪鑫的成长目标是做一个活跃而负责任的公民。
我想，自己也可以往这个方向努力，如果学生们也能成长为活跃而负责任的公民，那这个社会应该会更美好。
作为教育者，我可以贡献自己的一点力量。
Hermione's goal is to grow into an active and responsible citizen.
I think that I can also work in this direction. If students can also grow into active and responsible citizens, the society probably would also become better.
As an educator, I can contribute a little bit of my voice and action.
陶理看完这段的感受：
Hermione's feelings:
可以骄傲地说这个故事来自我的朋友和同行。
Proud to say this is from my friend and peer.
我就是想要确保看到这里的你都有注意到，即使这是2020年国际女性日的活动，#每个人的平等不排除男性以及其他任何人，比如：
Cedric谈他的老师与母亲 #EachforEqual 【In English and Chinese 英中双语】
I just want to make sure you if you are reading, even it is IWD2020 campaign, #EachforEqual does not exclude men (nor anyone else), see: Cedric谈他的老师与母亲 #EachforEqual 【In English and Chinese 英中双语】
我也在严肃思考自己是否错误表达了自己会让人误解说我觉得女性更重要，我无意引发这样的误解。我不比较是因为我认为没有必要竞争出优劣。我更倾向于认为提醒我们所有人不要忘记我们都需要一个平等的世界来充分成为我们想要做的那个人。
I am considering seriously if I mis-interpret myself that women are more important, I have no intention to cause this misunderstanding. And I try not to compare as I see there is no need to compete. I prefer to say that let us not forget we all need a equal world to fully become the one we want to be.
Male and female, and other genders, definitely have something different, but there is no need to always take the differences against each other to become a gap or critiera in judging which is stronger or superior.
男性和女性，以及其他性别之间，固然是存在差异的，但没有必要让这时刻成为一种判断高低强弱的差距。
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