20件看似微不足道的小事，竟然会影响孩子一辈子
生活中，总有一些小事儿看起来微不足道，却对孩子有着深远的影响。接下来，Professor就来介绍20个这样的小事儿，各位爸妈看看自己忽略了多少？
1.Tape a family saying (Ex. We are unstoppable! We can, and we will! We've got this!) to your refrigerator door and read it together when your child feels discouraged.
当孩子感到气馁时，可以在冰箱门上贴上一句家庭口号，比如“不可阻挡！”“我们可以，我们行！”“我们做到了！”，使其发挥作用。
2.Slip a note into a lunch box for your child.
把想对孩子说的话写在纸条上，并放进他的午餐盒中。
3.Go for a walk with just one of your children at a time.
（多子女父母）适当与每一个孩子有单独相处的时间。
4.Take in a pet that needs a home and show it love.
养只需要被照顾的宠物。
5. At amusement parks, show as much excitement as they do.
（陪孩子去游乐场）对游乐园游乐设施表现出尽可能大的热情。
6. If your child sees you argue, make sure he also sees you make up.
如果父母在孩子面前吵架，也一定要让他看到你们和好。
7. Remind your children to talk to their grandparents every now and then.
（与孩子一起）时常与家中的长辈联络感情，表达关怀。
8.If your child has done his best, but he is miserable and wants to give up, then give him your blessing.
如果孩子尝试着努力去做好某件事，但是仍然感到痛苦和焦虑，很想放弃，这时候不妨尊重他的意愿。
9.Let your 4-year-old splash in every puddle along the way, even without rain boots on.
别给天真的孩子太多“枷锁”，适当让他们随心而行。
10. Remember to make a birthday card for your child or cook heart-shaped pancakes for breakfast. Your love is the most important part.
尝试着亲手给孩子做个生日贺卡，或者制作心形的早餐煎饼，毕竟用心是无价的。
11.Give your toddler a chance to fight his own battles in the sandbox or on the playground before you rush in.
在你介入之前，给孩子一个机会在沙箱或操场上为自己而“战”。
12. Don't ask about his day, if your child comes home in a bad mood. You can try to ask at dinner time.
如果孩子从学校回来后显得心情不好或者疲惫，那么不要着急询问“今天过得怎么样”之类的问题。可以在晚餐时询问。
13.Cultivate your own family rituals and traditions: Taco Tuesdays, Sunday afternoon bike rides, and apple picking in the fall.
培养自己建立某种习惯：周二吃玉米饼，每周日下午骑自行车，每年秋天采摘苹果等等。
14.Ask your child to teach you something for a change. And once you've got the hang of it, be sure to tell him what a good teacher he is.
向孩子请教一些问题。一旦你掌握了解决之道，一定要告诉他：你是一个好老师。
15.Let your child overhear you saying something wonderful about him.
让孩子无意间听到你夸赞他的那些话。
16.Print for them their childhood photos so they can see how much they have grown.
把孩子童年的照片打印出来，这样确保他们长大后能够通过这些照片回忆自己的童年。
17.Don't be in a hurry to tell your child to let it go. He needs time to vent too.
（遇到不开心的事情）不要强迫孩子马上就要释怀。他同样需要发泄。
18.Hang a whiteboard in her room so you can leave messages for each other.
在她的房间里挂一个白板，互相留言。
19.Share your old diaries, photos, and letters with her from when you were her age.
与孩子分享你在她那个年纪时的旧日记，照片和信件。
20. Remember to thank your child when he does a chore on his own, even if it's just hanging up a wet towel without being told or just refilling an empty water pitcher.
当他独立做家务的时候,感谢你的孩子——即使只是在没有提示的情况下把湿毛巾挂起来，或者给空水壶装满水。
Professor点评：
父母是孩子最好的老师，但是父母影响孩子的方式并不一定是忠言逆耳的警告，或者长篇大论的苦口婆心，也许就是在生活中那些不经意的小事儿中，让孩子感受到爱、乐观、勇敢、自信、关心他人等等优秀的品质，这些将对孩子一生产生深远影响。