美国人为什么这么愿意夸人
和美国外教相处长了,发现美国人最喜欢做的事情就是夸人,把你各种夸,各种尴尬夸,美国人的确是这样一言不合就 You are great! 【外教一对一】
美国人夸人最基本的路数应该就是夸包、夸鞋子、夸衣服的:
I was checking in at Krabi Airpot and a foreigner came to tell me that my bag looked great! But in fact it was a ¥39 folk-style rope-bag which I bought on Taobao (postage covered).
Kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk, one day I was walking on the street, and someone suddenly step over to tell me my skirt was nice!
Another day I was carrying a bag and got a compliment on it, saying it was cute!
And there was even a time that my glasses got circulating among a group of people with each of them taking selfies wearing it. There must have been about 300 selfies. What can I say?
It's true. For the last few days here have been 20 people telling that my shoes looks beautiful, including some teachers and class advisers.
上面这些只是基本款,还有进阶款。有的美国人夸起衣服来,那真的十分离奇,你都不知道自己是不是在做梦:
How much do the American love to compliment people?
My friend was taking a dump in a public toilet and the person in the next cell knocked on the wall to tell her that her shoes looked nice.
That day I was tying my shoes in a squat position, and somebody told me that my briefs looked good.
对于初到美国的人,有时候都不明白到底怎么反应才好。
更何况,有的美国人还不仅仅满足于夸衣服,一定要深刻地夸你的长相,而且夸的技法还五花八门。
My eyelids are single-fold. You won't even see my eyes if I smile. Yet, some Americans told me that my eyes are beautiful? Beautiful like stars???
Hahahahahahahhahahaha, I met 3 black girls in New York and they told me that I was an angel, that woke their ears like a beam of sunshine.
This is real. Once I was in a theme park. When I went to buy cupcakes my hair was totally wet. Yet the salesperson said I was beautiful and asked me if I had a boyfriend.
The last time I went out with a male friend of mine, a black woman lowered her car's window when she passed us and yelled at my friend through the wind "腿!真!好!看!".
不光中国人觉得奇怪,很多欧洲人也觉得不可思议。之前有英国媒体评出过“美国人会干的10件能把英国人逼疯的事”,里面有2项就是关于他们的“爱。夸。人。”
第1件. 说:“我好喜欢你的口音!”
在我搬来这里之前,我还从没想过我这清晰的伦敦口音会听起来“聪明”或者“可爱”。一开始这种称赞还挺好的,但后来有一个纽约虎妈让我用这种口音跟她2岁的孩子讲话,希望这能传染。这我就开始觉得有点烦了。
第4件. 永无止境的诚挚称赞
如果我哪天过得不好,或者过得很好,或者过得随便怎么样,我都不希望商店里一个我完全不认识的人突然跑来对我大肆称赞。然而在美国,正常人真的会说:“这位女士,你今天真的是个超棒的顾客”,而原因仅仅是我在他们店买了一盒卫生棉条。
对于英国人这些深度“社交恐惧症患者”来说,碰到这种事真是拔腿就要跑了。要闹明白这件事情的原因,或许还是得问问美国人自己。
刚刚上面那个Quora问题就已经有美国人回答了,她是这么回答的:
总体来说,美国人真的很健谈。我们觉得闲谈是一种很礼貌、很合适的行为,而谈天气则是一种没啥意思的事情。当你在美国的公共场所时,旁边的人突然找你讲话是一点也不奇怪的。我甚至在等红灯的时候和旁边车的司机开过玩笑呢。而对于这种轻量级的对话来说,表扬别人是一种友好、安全而且愉快的话题。