我该如何处理生活中的大事儿？

Sadhguru: See, how to address the larger issues of my life. There are no large issues in your life.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：你看，如何处理我人生中较大的问题。你的人生没有大问题。

Participant: Somebody needs to help me understand that.

参会者：我需要有人帮我理解这一点。

Sadhguru: What is the large issue that you're talking about? It is just about what job to take? which girl to marry…?

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：你所说的大问题是什么呢？不过是做什么工作？娶哪个女孩为妻……？

Participant: That about covers it.

参会者：大概就是这些。

Sadhguru: You know, where to go for vacation? Whether to get married or not get married, you know, these are the things, isn't it? These are not large issues; these are all little things in your life. Yes, 'Oh, is it just a small thing whom I get married to?’ I'm not saying it's a small thing but as an issue it's a small issue, little issue. As a consequence to your life, yes it has many things but this is something that human beings have done for millions of years. We have enough experience on these things, isn't it?

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：去哪儿度假？是结婚还是不结婚，你知道，就是这些事，不是吗？这些都不是大问题；这些都是你人生中的小事情，是的。“噢，我跟谁结婚只是小事吗？”我不是说这是小事，但作为问题，它是小问题，几乎不是问题。作为你人生的一个后果，它的确涵盖许多事情，但是这是人类数百万年以来一直在做的事，我们在这些事上已经有足够的经验了，不是吗？

We know that whatever job we take, whoever we marry, it is just the way we make out of it. Every experience of life you can make it an enriching experience. Every experience in your life you can make a curse out of it. See, there is nothing wrong in your job, whatever job you're doing. There is nothing wrong getting this job, there is nothing wrong in losing this job. There is nothing wrong in getting married, there is nothing wrong in getting divorced. There is nothing wrong in not getting married. There is nothing wrong in anything. There is nothing wrong in this or that but it is just that you make misery out of it, that’s wrong. If you do this you make misery out of it. If you do that you make misery out of it, that’s what is wrong with you.

我们知道无论做什么工作、跟谁结婚，都只看我们把它变成什么样。人生的每次经历，你都可以让它变得丰富多彩，人生的每次经历，你也可以把它变成诅咒。你看，无论你做的是什么工作，工作本身没有问题。得到这份工作没错，失去这份工作也没错，结婚没错，离婚也没错，不结婚也没错，任何事情都没有错。这样那样都没错，只是你从中制造痛苦，这就错了。如果你做这个，你从中制造痛苦，如果你做那个，你也从中制造痛苦，这就是你的错误之处。

So, you got married, is it wrong? That’s not the point. There's nothing wrong with it. You did not get married, is it wrong? No, there's nothing wrong with it, that’s wonderful too. You got divorced, is it wrong? No, that’s also wonderful. It is just that you make misery out of everything, that’s what is wrong. You just address that one issue everything will be settled.

所以，你结婚了，有错吗？那不是重点，这没什么错。你不结婚，有错吗？不，也没什么错，那样也很好。你离婚了，错了吗？没有，那也挺好的。只是你从每件事中都制造痛苦，那才是错误所在，你只要解决那个问题，所有事情就都解决了。

That’s what we are looking at, how not to make misery out of everything. If this one thing is settled everything is settled, isn't it? Yes? If you know how to walk through this world joyfully through marriage and divorce and celibacy and everything if you know how to walk through this joyfully, what is the problem? Whatever you do is beautiful, isn't it?

那就是我们在看的，怎样不从每件事中都制造痛苦。如果这件事解决了，每件事都解决了，不是吗？对吗？如果你知道怎样快乐地在这世上走一遭，经历结婚、离婚、独身以及各种各样的事，如果你知道如何快乐地经历这些，还有什么问题吗？你做的任何事情都是漂亮的，不是吗？

Participant: Does this mean just being …living this whole life happily without realizing self is enough?

参会者：这是否意味着只是……愉快地度过此生而没有自我了悟就足够了呢？

Sadhguru: That comes next. If you don’t even know how to be happy; don’t have such goals as realization, they're very far away from you.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：那是接下来的事情。如果你连如何快乐都不知道，就不要有觉悟之类的目标，它们离你太远了。

Participant: Happiness is just a state of mind and anybody can......

参会者：快乐就是一种心态，任何人都能够……

Sadhguru: See, you are just dismissing something very fundamental to your life with a stupid definition. Happiness is not just a state of mind, it is just the basis of the quality of life that you live here, isn't it? Is it such a small thing, happiness? 'Oh, it's just a state of mind’ - is it a small thing? It's the biggest issue, isn't it?

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：看，你正用一个愚蠢的定义否定了你人生中非常根本的东西。快乐不仅是一种心态，它是你生活在这里的生命质量的基础，不是吗？快乐，它是一件小事吗？“哦，它就是一种心态”——它是小事吗？它是最大的问题，不是吗？

Participant: In your book you have written this is the minimum thing to do in life is to be happy

参会者：在您的书中，您写过，人生中最基本的事就是要开心。

Sadhguru: Yes. Yes.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：是的，是的。

Participant: and if I do that in the entire life will I be fulfilling my life?

参会者：那么如果我的一生都做到这一点，我就实现人生了吗?

Sadhguru: No. No, I didn’t say that. I said if that is not possible, forget realization and all that nonsense, it's not even in your sphere. If you are capable of going through this world joyfully then you could talk about going beyond. If you're not even capable of going through this joyfully, talking about beyond is no good. There is no way, I'm telling you, there is simply no way. For a person who is constantly creating inner battles all the time how will he deal with the bondages of life and how will he transcend that? There’s no question. It doesn’'t arise in your life.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：不。不，我没那么说过。我说的是，如果这一点都做不到，就别想着觉悟和所有那些胡扯，它甚至都不在你的范围里。如果你能够快乐地在世上走一遭，那么你才可以谈论超越，如果你都不能快乐地在世上走一遭，谈论超越是没用的。没有办法，我告诉你，就是没办法。对于一个在不停制造内在冲突的人来说，他又如何应对生命的束缚，他又如何超越它呢？不可能，它不会在你生命中发生。

So, first thing is working towards to be a blissful human being. If that happens the rest becomes very simple because a blissful human being, once your happiness is not at stake anything that’s needed you will do, isn't it? Right now, you cannot do what's needed because always your happiness is at stake. You're thinking what… which is the right thing to do, which is the right thing to do. There is no right thing to do in your life; there is no wrong thing to do in your life. If you know how not to make misery out of everything that you do, whatever you're doing is the right thing. If you're making misery out of everything that you do, everything that you do is the wrong thing. So, that’s the only issue, you have to look at. Others are all petty things, what does it matter which way you do it?

所以，首要的事情是致力于成为一个喜悦的人，如果做到这一点，那么剩下的就会非常简单。因为一个喜悦的人，一旦快乐不成问题的话，那么需要做什么你都会去做，不是么？现在，你做不了需要做的事，因为你的快乐始终都朝不保夕，你在想该做哪件事才对，该做哪件事才对。你的生命中没有该做的事情；你的生命中没有不该做的事情。如果你知道如何不从你做的每件事情中制造痛苦，那么无论你做什么都是对的；如果你从你做的每件事中制造痛苦，那么你做的每件事都是错的。所以，这才是你唯一需要思考的问题，其他都是琐事，怎么做又有什么关系？

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